Sharing Money

I have always been under the understanding that married couples were suppose to share finances and financial responsibility. Begining of March we opened a joint account with our income tax return so that household bills would be separate from our personal bills. I just found out today that two bills were not paid when they should have been and we are now coming up on the new due dates with not enough money in the joint account to cover it. You see, he's expecting a check and spent some of the money with the plans to "pay it back" when this other check comes in. Well, we are still waiting for this other check, still waiting for unemployment money to come in and nothing from his measly little part-time position has gone in the joint account. I'm getting sick of him keeping his financial status secret from me. He uses his ex-wife as a reason. She handled all the bills and money, stopped paying the bills, saved the money, and left him with $20 to his name...cleaned out the account. So I guess he thinks I'm going to do the same thing. Guess you really shouldn't marry someone you don't trust. There are so many things going wrong here I'm getting sick of it and about to either blow up at him or just kick him out without explaination which wouldn't actually happen but it will give him too much room for excuses and promises that won't be able to be kept. If it was just possible to talk to him without him getting defensive we could probably avoid all this, but he always gets defensive and then blames things on me, no matter what it is.

Thanks again for "listening"